Just a couple of years ago, a vow renewal was something we only ever saw on TV or in the movies, but these sweet celebrations have seriously grown in popularity especially for the cohort of couples who got married during the pandemic and want to have that celebration their missed out on with their friends. Of course, it’s also a gorgeous way to mark your anniversary milestones.

If you ask us, why should couples only celebrate their relationship once, and why only at the beginning of their (hopefully very long!) marriage? That’s why, here we’re answering some frequently-asked questions about vow renewals to serve as a handy introduction to this sweet ceremony idea if you’re considering it yourself.

What is a Vow Renewal?

In simple terms, a vow renewal is a ceremony in which a married couple reaffirm their commitment to each other. It usually takes the form of a ceremony similar to a marriage ceremony, in which the couple either exchanges the same vows from their wedding day, or new vows they have written for the occasion.

Couples usually have a small celebration around the ceremony, whether it be an intimate dinner for two, a nostalgic viewing of their wedding video, an elopement or drinks with a small group of friends and family members. The beauty of a vow renewal is that there’s no established format to follow, so couples should feel free to get creative with their plans. A vow renewal really can be as elaborate, or as low-key as you wish.

Should You Have a Vow Renewal?

Whether you have a vow renewal is completely up to you and your partner. While some people like to catch their partner off guard with a surprise vow renewal, generally speaking, a vow renewal is something that the couple decide upon together. It’s a good idea to discuss how you’re feeling about the marriage, and what you would like to gain from a vow renewal before you start planning one.

A milestone anniversary provides a good excuse, but you can have a vow renewal anytime. For couples who had a downsized wedding due to circumstances beyond their control, a vow renewal could coincide with the larger party that didn’t go ahead as planned. The options really are endless.

Do I need a Celebrant for a Vow Renewal?

Technically, no. If you had a religious wedding, you’ll need to check with a church leader about whether they can facilitate a vow renewal, or similar type of ceremony, perhaps involving a blessing. If you had a Humanist, spiritual or other type of secular ceremony, it’s nice to model your vow renewal after the marriage ceremony, and maybe even hire the same celebrant, but not essential.

A vow renewal is a symbolic celebration of your marriage, so there are no hard and fast rules. If you wanted, you and your partner could exchange vows in your living room, pop a bottle of bubbly and settle down in front of the TV for the rest of the night. Equally, you could have your vow renewal during on a beach in a far-flung location, during a bucket-list holiday. It’s really up to you and your partner.

What Should We Wear for our Vow Renewal?

You can (and should!) wear whatever you like for your vow renewal. There’s no reason why you have to wear white, or look bridal, or don a suit, it’s really up to you and your partner, and the look and feel of your vow renewal. The one piece of advice we’ll give is to discuss what you’re wearing with your partner ahead of time, so one of you doesn’t end up feeling over or underdressed!

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